Masking Is Not Femininity I have just published a new book: The Autistic Woman’s Guide to Self-Rediscovery Beauty, Softness, Sensuality and Feminine Self-Recovery for Intelligent, Masking and Neurodivergent Women It is not a book about becoming a different woman. That mattered to me from the beginning. I had no interest in writing a book that told autistic, masking, intelligent or neurodivergent women to become softer so that other people could handle them more easily. I did not want to write a book about becoming prettier so that the world might finally approve. I did not want to write a book about performing femininity correctly, as if womanhood were an exam some of us had failed. I wanted to write about return. Many women do not lose themselves all at once. They lose access to themselves slowly. A little through childhood confusion. A little through being misunderstood. A little through criticism. A little through masking. A little through school, work, relationships, mot...
Functioning Is Not the Same as Being Well I have just finished a new book: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Mental Wellbeing An Honest, Gentle, Science-Aware Guide to Stress, Confidence, Emotion, Love, Overload and Feeling Like Yourself Again It began with a simple thought that I think many women will recognise: We can be capable and struggling at the same time. We can answer the emails, remember the appointments, make dinner, look presentable, care for other people, keep the house more or less running, perform competence at work, and still feel as if something inside us is becoming thin. From the outside, a woman may look fine. She may be organised. Polite. Attractive enough. Sensible enough. Cheerful enough. Useful enough. She may still be doing the shopping, remembering birthdays, managing the family details, replying to messages, caring for parents, supporting children, keeping a relationship going, or holding a job together. And because she is still functioning, everyone ...